Written by Wendy Serrano
The silly season is well and truly upon us, and while it can be a time for joy, Christmas cheer, and celebrations, it can also be a triggering, overwhelming, exhausting and mentally challenging time for some. Here are 3 tips to help you and your mental wellbeing over the holidays.
Set boundaries and take as many breaks as you need
Having boundaries is critical at this time, especially when it comes to connecting with friends and family. Being assertive with what fills up your cup, what drains your energy and ensuring you are doing everything you possible can to protect your peace. If that means skipping out on ONE social event and saying no to some girlfriends, try to remove the guilt and give yourself a break. You are worthy of peace.
Sometimes taking a break can just look like spending a quiet night at home, reading a book or watching a comfort film while enjoying a beautiful cup of Sleep Well to wind down. I sometimes take my Sleep Well during the day or in the morning, if I feel I am feeling a little extra overworked, anxious or more stressed than usual.
Keep in mind what triggers you the most - and be gentle and kind to yourself
This time of year can also be quite triggering - I totally understand and hear you. Whether it be family issues, a memory that shows up this time of year, or perhaps you are just going through a challenging season, just know the only way through this, is to feel right through it. It’s easy to numb it out, be busy, go out, and socialize; however, what happens more often than not, is that feeling sits in the body, and can show up later, setting off a bunch of emotions.
I would suggest identifying these triggers (in a safe space), and transmuting that energy - either writing it out in a journal, exercise, or connect with a safe loved one/person. Honouring your feelings can help you work through certain triggers and emotions quicker than you think and it helps you build your self-love and self-trust muscle.
Even better, if you can identify a certain event or being around certain people can “set off” these triggers, come up with a game plan or choose to set some boundaries around these.
Give yourself some grace, show yourself some kindness and love - however that looks for you.
Make a plan for when you do feel upset or overwhelmed
So you decide to head out to the party, and something someone says, triggers you or sets something off internally. How will you deal with this? Identifying a game plan to assist with this is essential - it can be something as literal as walking away, disconnecting from the conversation, or heading to a quiet, safe space, for some deep breaths to help you self regulate. Knowing you have a back up or “game plan” for when things do get a bit tricky, can help reduce the anxiety and again, build your self-trust muscle.
I hope these tips have helped and I hope you have a safe, happy and healthy holiday break.
Please be kind to yourself, show yourself some love, and acknowledge how far you have come in 2024. One way or another, you are here, and I am so happy for that.
Please note, this advice is not to replace medical treatments and if you are ever unsure, please seek further assistance. If you need to talk to someone, please know you are not alone. Please reach out for help. There are some incredible resources you can utilise:
Lifeline: 13 11 14 or lifeline.org.au
Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 or beyondblue.org.au
Headspace: 1800 650 890 or headspace.org.au
I look forward to sharing more health and wellbeing knowledge with you in 2025.
With love,
Wendy x
